First Dates
What to do, what to say, what to wear, and what happens next.
A first date is a low-stakes conversation that everyone treats as a high-stakes audition. Most of the anxiety comes from the format rather than the person: a long dinner across a table, no exit, and a bill that arrives whether or not you are enjoying yourself.
There are better formats. This section covers date ideas that give you something to talk about, conversation starters that are not interview questions, how long a first date should actually last, what to text before and after, and how to read whether it went well — including when the honest answer is that it did not.
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Most first date questions produce a fact and then silence. These fifteen give the other person something to actually talk about — and tell you far more about them.